What if you’re already whole as you are?

Oftentimes, clients come to me because they feel like something is missing. They are struggling in life, suffering, or lacking what they want or need to take the next, big step in life. What they want to do is, naturally, instigate a way to fix that. So they sign up for training, coaching, or therapy to grow and develop.

Ironically, this approach tends to reinforce feelings of inadequacy. When our attempts to improve don’t lead to the desired results, we feel even more deficient. And even when we do have success, it often leads to the realization that something else still needs improvement.

Are you caught in this never-ending cycle?

I certainly was. It’s like running on a hamster wheel; the more I attended classes, coaching, or therapy, the more I felt there was to learn and develop. 

But here’s a thought:

What if nothing is missing? What if you’re already whole as you are?

Unfolding Wholeness

The unfolding paradigm is core to my work as a coach and facilitator. This paradigm invites us to see ourselves as inherently whole, much like how we view a newborn baby or a seed. We don’t look at a baby and focus on its lack of skills. We also don’t judge a seed for not yet being a full-grown plant or for not yet carrying fruit. Instead, we see their potential and recognize their wholeness at every stage of the growing process.

In this way we can look at growing as an unfolding process -  an unfolding of what is already present. 

Deepening Contact to Self and Others

To unfold, we need to deepen the contact with ourselves and others. When we feel deficient, it’s often because the contact with our true selves is superficial. Deepening this contact helps us to reconnect with our innate wholeness. In the process, we also deepen our relationships with the people around us, the natural world, and life itself.

Letting Be, Letting Come

By attuning to what is here now, I guide clients to deeper contact with their inner selves. We start with what’s present and let the emergent guide us in the explorations and inquiries. By being with what is, feeling and embracing the present moment, we drop into deeper states of presence and to self-realization. Clients will have a direct experience of their innate wholeness - not as something they need to build but as something they already are.

How do you know that you are in wholeness? Not because it feels comfortable. You’ll recognise wholeness because you will feel as if nothing is missing.

This experience is profound. It reveals that wholeness isn’t a result of hard effort, but a fundamental aspect of being human.

Our human virtues

When we reconnect with our innate wholeness, we drop into a resourced state. We feel grounded, dignified, and capable of responding to the challenges we face. Then we feel empowered to handle life’s complexities with courage, creativity, compassion, and other inherent human virtues.

When we contemplate our life challenges from this resourced state, we often relate very differently to the issues. We often have new insights and creative ideas for inspired action. 

In my coaching, we focus on deepening the contact to Self and on embodying these human virtues..

I support my clients with realizing that they don’t just possess these virtues but that they are these virtues. This realization is unshakeable.

Once you understand and embody your wholeness, no external circumstance can undermine that. You will feel truly grounded in yourself, trustful and resourced to meet life and it’s challenges.